Sometimes I want to eat things (donuts, cookies, etc. ) that are not good for my diet and weight loss goals so DHOH and I came up with a Payment Table to allow me to "pay" for the goodies I want to consume.
Of course I still have to ask permission and they have to be authorized or payment is doubled or tripled according to the amount consumed. Of course this is to be completed immediately unless doubled or more then I have till Lights Out to complete it. This is also on top of any PT he assigned for other reasons including Daily Calisthenics or PT.
1 Donut or Cinnamon roll 50 sit ups, 20 push ups, 20 leg lifts and 10 eight count body builders
2 Cookies (homemade) 20 push ups, 20 side leg lifts [each side]
2 Cookies (bought) 20 push ups, 10 push ups
2 pc. Candy 10 push ups
of course this is only the beginning but more will be added.
* Explanation of what each exercise is will be added in a separate post.
10 January 2009
Mandy's RULES
the four D's are a no brainer.
Disrespect
There are more:
Disrespect
- Name Calling
- Gestures
- Yelling
- Not completing a task
- Ignoring a task
- Ignoring or not complying to an order
- Telling of a lie
- Omission of pertinent information
that results in a lie
- Open and outright disobedience
There are more:
- Take my 1st med NLT (no later than) 1100 daily
- Take my 2nd NLT 1700 daily
- All items must be put away according to instruction.
- Close all cabinets every time they are opened including the ones in the closet
- Not to eat anything not healthy and good for my diet unless it is authorized and only
have the amount that is authorized no more and be willing to pay from the Payment Table.
Punishments and Endurance Training DD Training Week 1
This week he has introduced all new punishments to me. Week 1 punishments
Misbehavior: Refusal to complete task
Punishment: Holding a toy at arms length for 2-3 minutes. OMgosh it hurt soooo bad and he kept saying hold your arms up higher (45 degree angle) then higher and higher till they were almost 90 degrees. My arms were shaking by the time he told me to recover and then I had to give him 20 push ups.
Misbehavior: Forgot my medication totally (all of them). This was a repeat (about 7 times) offense so he was understandably angry with me. It is offense if I don't take them at a certain time but to forget them altogether is unthinkable.
Punishment: I was told to stand in the corner (now at attention with nose touching the wall) and wait for him. It was really cold, we are trying to save money by not having the heat on if possible, so I was shaking and defiant. I HATE being cold. He told me to give him 20 push ups, then 20 crunches, then 20 leg lifts (will give definitions of how to do these in another post). The leg lifts were killing me. Then he had me do 20 4 ct. lungs but I could barely keep up. It really bothered me that I "fell out" but my legs were jello. Then he motioned for me to come to him and lay across his lap. I always have to come to him he won't come to me and if I don't submit I am in more trouble later. He removed everything I was wearing on my lower half and I layed across his lap. He started with a warm up to keep me from bruising but because it was cold in the room 68 deegrees and my skin was cold the spanking hurt a lot worse than it normally would. After about 30 swats he let me go in position {kneeling in front of him} and warned me that this would be a dream compared to what I would get if I EVER forgot my medication again. I was very grateful for his leniency but then felt guilty like I had gotten off easy. He let me no that there is no way I would have been released if he was not ready to end my punishment. I felt better that he truly was in control and I don't need to be.
On top of these I also recieved several maintenance spankings. And had to go stand at parade rest in the corner and do several push ups just because.
God Bless
MJ
Misbehavior: Refusal to complete task
Punishment: Holding a toy at arms length for 2-3 minutes. OMgosh it hurt soooo bad and he kept saying hold your arms up higher (45 degree angle) then higher and higher till they were almost 90 degrees. My arms were shaking by the time he told me to recover and then I had to give him 20 push ups.
Misbehavior: Forgot my medication totally (all of them). This was a repeat (about 7 times) offense so he was understandably angry with me. It is offense if I don't take them at a certain time but to forget them altogether is unthinkable.
Punishment: I was told to stand in the corner (now at attention with nose touching the wall) and wait for him. It was really cold, we are trying to save money by not having the heat on if possible, so I was shaking and defiant. I HATE being cold. He told me to give him 20 push ups, then 20 crunches, then 20 leg lifts (will give definitions of how to do these in another post). The leg lifts were killing me. Then he had me do 20 4 ct. lungs but I could barely keep up. It really bothered me that I "fell out" but my legs were jello. Then he motioned for me to come to him and lay across his lap. I always have to come to him he won't come to me and if I don't submit I am in more trouble later. He removed everything I was wearing on my lower half and I layed across his lap. He started with a warm up to keep me from bruising but because it was cold in the room 68 deegrees and my skin was cold the spanking hurt a lot worse than it normally would. After about 30 swats he let me go in position {kneeling in front of him} and warned me that this would be a dream compared to what I would get if I EVER forgot my medication again. I was very grateful for his leniency but then felt guilty like I had gotten off easy. He let me no that there is no way I would have been released if he was not ready to end my punishment. I felt better that he truly was in control and I don't need to be.
On top of these I also recieved several maintenance spankings. And had to go stand at parade rest in the corner and do several push ups just because.
God Bless
MJ
DD training Week 1 Day 5H
During this weekend will be getting our home back together. I am ashamed to say how bad it has gotten and in this training stage I should really know better. So since our standards have completely fallen away (we can't seem to be consistent) B has decided that we are going to military standards of cleanliness and has ordered that we simplify greatly our living space. I am quite surprised I remember living on so little when I was in the military, when did I start to *need* so much stuff? When did my happiness center on how much we had even though we couldn't enjoy anything. I have to admit that it will take a great amount of discipline (for us both) in order to thin our home down to manageable.
He is not just talking about the glove test but how items are folded and stowed and he will inspect, not just now in the future too. I am relieved frankly now I know what everything should look like and how it should be put away. He has made it crystal clear that he will not tolerate laziness on my part and not following directions precisely. He was an inspector of the barracks shortly before getting out so I believe him when he says he will inspect.
I also have to request before I bring ANYTHING new into this home now and forever. If it is not
"authorized" but him it is not allowed to be here, end of discussion.
*Note punishments during this time will be under punishments still and will be a separate post.
God Bless
MJ
He is not just talking about the glove test but how items are folded and stowed and he will inspect, not just now in the future too. I am relieved frankly now I know what everything should look like and how it should be put away. He has made it crystal clear that he will not tolerate laziness on my part and not following directions precisely. He was an inspector of the barracks shortly before getting out so I believe him when he says he will inspect.
I also have to request before I bring ANYTHING new into this home now and forever. If it is not
"authorized" but him it is not allowed to be here, end of discussion.
*Note punishments during this time will be under punishments still and will be a separate post.
God Bless
MJ
DD Training Week 1
Last week has been hard on us both. I have been feeling rebellion within me and he is finding it hard to address that while he looks for a job but this week we hit a turning point especially for him.
Throughout the week I have tested a little to really push his resolve especially during this transition time and met a brick wall of authority. For example I was assigned specific duty to do while he was gone running an errand but my daughter was fussy and it took me also the whole time to get her down for her nap and I did not complete the task at hand. When he arrived home he looked at me sternly and said drop and give me 20 pushups. My first instinct is for him to give me a smaller amount to start and my stomach sank. I can't do 20 push ups but to my surprise I pumped them out pretty well. Then I waited in the "rest" position for him to allow me up. Then he said 20 crunches, begin. After completing them I waited for my next instruction. Let me just say outside the military the hardest thing for me to submit to is physical exercise as punihsment and I have to know he is 100% serious. Like standing over me with his belt to swat my butt if I dare stop before he says so. I know it may seem unfair to most that I be punished in this way (to expect a spanking later) but in this training phase in the beginning to break someone down to their core it is important to punish like that when they are not entirely to blame. The concept of fairness does not exist at this point. I should try to everything to please my HOH and if I fall short should be disciplined, although spanking is NOT always needed. I trust B not to abuse this power or punish in away that doesn't equal my infraction.
He also introduced a new concept this week PT just because or as he calls it "because I can" this mostly applies to PT (physical training) but he has swatted me a few times "just because". He seems to be focusing on non-spanking discipline because it takes the "fight" out of me really fast and it motivates and energizes me to work harder to please him.
God Bless
MJ
Throughout the week I have tested a little to really push his resolve especially during this transition time and met a brick wall of authority. For example I was assigned specific duty to do while he was gone running an errand but my daughter was fussy and it took me also the whole time to get her down for her nap and I did not complete the task at hand. When he arrived home he looked at me sternly and said drop and give me 20 pushups. My first instinct is for him to give me a smaller amount to start and my stomach sank. I can't do 20 push ups but to my surprise I pumped them out pretty well. Then I waited in the "rest" position for him to allow me up. Then he said 20 crunches, begin. After completing them I waited for my next instruction. Let me just say outside the military the hardest thing for me to submit to is physical exercise as punihsment and I have to know he is 100% serious. Like standing over me with his belt to swat my butt if I dare stop before he says so. I know it may seem unfair to most that I be punished in this way (to expect a spanking later) but in this training phase in the beginning to break someone down to their core it is important to punish like that when they are not entirely to blame. The concept of fairness does not exist at this point. I should try to everything to please my HOH and if I fall short should be disciplined, although spanking is NOT always needed. I trust B not to abuse this power or punish in away that doesn't equal my infraction.
He also introduced a new concept this week PT just because or as he calls it "because I can" this mostly applies to PT (physical training) but he has swatted me a few times "just because". He seems to be focusing on non-spanking discipline because it takes the "fight" out of me really fast and it motivates and energizes me to work harder to please him.
God Bless
MJ
Welcome to DD Training
We are a different breed of people. We are servants at heart and have both served our country in the military. So it is not a big surprise that we would incorporate those aspects that would work in our everyday lives. I am a responsible adult but I need clear boundaries and regulations to function outside of myself. I need order and discipline with clear rules that help me stay focused and on task to bring out the best in me.
When we decided that we needed to feel comfortable in our God given roles I suggested a basic training to help break me of bad habits, learn new habits and to strengthen my spirit and our relationship through mutual hardship. I also wanted him to "whip my butt" no pun intended back in shape.
Part of the rules that he came up with as we began this journey is how discipline will be carried out. In most of the DD couples that I have encountered in my very limited experience of DD used spanking as the most common form of punishment but my veteran husband has ideas above and beyond that.
First and second offense immediately will be punished with 10-20 (at first increasing as I get stronger) exercises, these will be his choice. Not completing the punishment or quitting would mean an extra penalty. That night a spanking or non -spanking punishment will be awarded depending on the offense on top of the push ups, sit ups, 8 counts, etc. that he assigned immediately following the infraction.
Not only in the first week have I been getting stronger but I have been able to do more without getting as tired. It is actually starting to condition my body and it is only the first week.
More to come Stay tuned
God Bless
MJ
When we decided that we needed to feel comfortable in our God given roles I suggested a basic training to help break me of bad habits, learn new habits and to strengthen my spirit and our relationship through mutual hardship. I also wanted him to "whip my butt" no pun intended back in shape.
Part of the rules that he came up with as we began this journey is how discipline will be carried out. In most of the DD couples that I have encountered in my very limited experience of DD used spanking as the most common form of punishment but my veteran husband has ideas above and beyond that.
First and second offense immediately will be punished with 10-20 (at first increasing as I get stronger) exercises, these will be his choice. Not completing the punishment or quitting would mean an extra penalty. That night a spanking or non -spanking punishment will be awarded depending on the offense on top of the push ups, sit ups, 8 counts, etc. that he assigned immediately following the infraction.
Not only in the first week have I been getting stronger but I have been able to do more without getting as tired. It is actually starting to condition my body and it is only the first week.
More to come Stay tuned
God Bless
MJ
DD Training Tranisition Begins
So it has been a while since I have let anyone have authority over me. When I did before it did not end well for me, they abused their authority and betrayed me in ways that no one could believe. Letting myself feel that way again is terrifying but now its a whole new ball of wax. DH is the only one I trust to have this authority and to use it for the good of "us" not just him.
DHOH has always said that he loves us, because you can love someone and not be able to be with that person, however when you love who you are with that person, that is what will last. So now I venture to once again place all that am in the hands of another, and allow him to break me down to my core and build me up to the wife, mother, and Christian I want to be.
I know it will not be easy but when I am done or at least progressed I will feel a sense of accomplishment. Something that seemed insurmountable is now attainable and I could
be the transformation I have longed for most of my life. Now I feel as though I am standing on
a cliff wondering if I should take that leap and realizing that I am already swimming in the middle of the ocean trying to tread water. Confusion and doubt seem to be my only friends these days.
So today is a single step in a life long journey of seeking myself. This is how we begin. We just do. There is no ceremony, no celebration, just the knowledge that we are delving into something greater than both of us and we will be changed. We will never be the same again.
God Bless
MJ
DHOH has always said that he loves us, because you can love someone and not be able to be with that person, however when you love who you are with that person, that is what will last. So now I venture to once again place all that am in the hands of another, and allow him to break me down to my core and build me up to the wife, mother, and Christian I want to be.
I know it will not be easy but when I am done or at least progressed I will feel a sense of accomplishment. Something that seemed insurmountable is now attainable and I could
be the transformation I have longed for most of my life. Now I feel as though I am standing on
a cliff wondering if I should take that leap and realizing that I am already swimming in the middle of the ocean trying to tread water. Confusion and doubt seem to be my only friends these days.
So today is a single step in a life long journey of seeking myself. This is how we begin. We just do. There is no ceremony, no celebration, just the knowledge that we are delving into something greater than both of us and we will be changed. We will never be the same again.
God Bless
MJ
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