BDSM Vs. CDD

At first glance CDD seems like an acceptable form of BDSM, but there are many differences. Before I talk any further please understand if you are involved in one or both I am not condoning or condemning the practice of BDSM, and those who have played in that arena, your way may be different but I am telling it as I remember from my younger years with my ex husband. The way I see it may not be the way it is, just as in CDD it is different for everyone.

First of all neither are to be forced on to another person, and can only be enjoyed within a safe environment. Having said that I will continue.

I hate bondage part so I will move on to the part I was addicted too and like any addict a taste is enough to make me fall off the wagon so I have to keep my distance, because that is a hard habit to break. I was referring to two parts Dominance/Submission and Sadomaschism.

To begin a little background, I was a 24.7 slave to my husband and I was his footstool. The slave (or sub) is the lowest on the totem pole and is made to do things simply for the sexual pleasure of the master. Punishments are doled out and while they can be severe they are for silly things or for no reason at all. Also these sessions are play, those involved usually have a safe word but it is all for one reason alone to spice up sex.

CDD on the other hand is about a relationship. I hierarchy and meeting of the minds and I am afraid that too many people sometimes focus too hard on the "spanking" part of the relationship. Like my HOH says it is a tool like many as his disposal. When I have earned a punishment from my husband there is no safeword. Its not for fun, or to spice up our love life. It happens for one reason alone: deter me from doing whatever it was that got me over his knee in the first place.
Now I won't lie, there is a certain tingling in those private areas whenever my man asserts his authority and means it, but that is not why I am OTK so to speak.

this is part one of a two part story. Check back soon for updates.